{"id":603,"date":"2014-05-16T22:30:25","date_gmt":"2014-05-16T15:30:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.careerlink.vn\/cam-nang-viec-lam\/?p=603"},"modified":"2026-08-05T11:47:23","modified_gmt":"2026-08-05T04:47:23","slug":"tieu-diet-cam-xuc-tieu-cuc","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.careerlink.vn\/cam-nang-viec-lam\/goc-ky-nang\/tieu-diet-cam-xuc-tieu-cuc","title":{"rendered":"Chinh ph\u1ee5c b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n – Ph\u1ea7n 1: Ti\u00eau di\u1ec7t c\u1ea3m x\u00fac ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i luôn gây c\u1ea3m giác chán ch\u01b0\u1eddng và m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi, và sau \u0111ó b\u1ea1n th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u1ef1 nh\u1ee7 s\u1ebd c\u1ea9n trong h\u01a1n? Nh\u01b0ng cái bóng c\u1ee7a sai l\u1ea7m quá l\u1edbn c\u1ea3n tr\u1edf b\u1ea1n v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua. \u0110\u1eebng \u0111\u1ec3 cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi b\u1ea1n \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m xúc không \u0111áng có này. Hãy d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i và tiêu di\u1ec7t th\u1ee9 c\u1ea3m xúc tiêu c\u1ef1c \u0111áng ghét ti\u1ec1m \u1ea9n trong b\u1ea1n ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c.<\/p>\n

V\u1ec1 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m, chuy\u00ean m\u1ee5c gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c \/ \u0111\u00e0o t\u1ea1o tr\u00ean CareerLink \u0111ang c\u00f3 kho\u1ea3ng 1931 tin tuy\u1ec3n d\u1ee5ng, m\u1ee9c l\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn dao \u0111\u1ed9ng 8-40 tri\u1ec7u \u0111\u1ed3ng m\u1ed7i th\u00e1ng t\u00f9y c\u1ea5p b\u1eadc v\u00e0 kinh nghi\u1ec7m. Tham kh\u1ea3o tr\u1ef1c ti\u1ebfp vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m ng\u00e0nh gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c \/ \u0111\u00e0o t\u1ea1o<\/a> s\u1ebd gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n h\u00ecnh dung r\u00f5 h\u01a1n c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0 m\u1eb7t b\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00e3i ng\u1ed9 hi\u1ec7n nay.<\/p>\n\n

\u0110\u1eebng bào ch\u1eefa<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nguyên nhân sâu xa gây ra c\u1ea3m xúc tiêu c\u1ef1c là s\u1ef1 bào ch\u1eefa. B\u1ea1n có c\u1ea3m giác y\u1ebfu \u0111u\u1ed1i khi t\u1ef1 bào ch\u1eefa v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n thân ho\u1eb7c v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi khác r\u1eb1ng b\u1ea1n có quy\u1ec1n t\u1ee9c gi\u1eadn hay th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng. Th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u1eadn d\u1eef ph\u1ea1m l\u1ed7i luôn mi\u1ec7ng trình bày \u0111\u1ee7 lý do \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i thích. Ch\u1eebng nào b\u1ea1n còn t\u1ef1 bào ch\u1eefa cho b\u1ea3n thân, c\u1ea3m xúc \u1ea5y còn ki\u1ec3m soát và chi ph\u1ed1i suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n theo h\u01b0\u1edbng x\u1ea5u \u0111i.<\/p>\n

R\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi không thành công m\u1eafc ph\u1ea3i c\u0103n b\u1ec7nh tinh th\u1ea7n này- t\u1ea1m g\u1ecdi là “t\u1ef1 bào ch\u1eefa”. Khi c\u0103n b\u1ec7nh này tr\u1ea7m tr\u1ecdng, ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ó s\u1ebd chu\u1ed1c l\u1ea5y th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n

\u0110\u1eebng có lý gi\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7t h\u01a1n<\/strong><\/p>\n

Khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ebfp giao công vi\u1ec7c cho \u0111\u1ed9i nhóm, b\u1ea1n th\u01b0\u1eddng mang tâm lý tìm lý do tránh b\u1ecb thi\u1ec7t thòi. B\u1ea1n tìm cách né tránh ho\u1eb7c tìm m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec3m tích c\u1ef1c nào \u0111ó trong hành vi \u0111\u1ec3 thuy\u1ebft ph\u1ee5c m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi. B\u1ea1n t\u1ef1 mình vào v\u1ecb trí n\u1ea1n nhân, và bi\u1ebfn ng\u01b0\u1eddi khác vào v\u1ecb trí “k\u1ebb áp b\u1ee9c”. Cách \u1ee9ng x\u1eed này s\u1ebd ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c giam gi\u1eef c\u1ea3m xúc tiêu c\u1ef1c luôn t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i trong con ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n. D\u1eebng vi\u1ec7c lý gi\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7t h\u01a1n và b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u1ed5i m\u1edbi b\u1ea3n thân khi ch\u01b0a mu\u1ed9n b\u1ea1n nhé.<\/p>\n

V\u01b0\u1ee3t lên ý ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi khác<\/strong><\/p>\n

Làm v\u1eeba lòng t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi là \u0111i\u1ec1u không th\u1ec3. B\u1ea1n ch\u1ec9 m\u1ea5t th\u1eddi gian và ki\u1ec7t s\u1ee9c trong b\u1ebf t\u1eafc. Vi\u1ec7c quá quan tâm hay nh\u1ea1y c\u1ea3m v\u1edbi cách ng\u01b0\u1eddi khác c\u01b0 x\u1eed c\u0169ng gây nên c\u1ea3m xúc tiêu c\u1ef1c. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi hình thành hình \u1ea3nh b\u1ea3n thân qua c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi khác. Khi nh\u1eefng ý ki\u1ebfn này tiêu c\u1ef1c thì ngay l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c h\u1ecd b\u1ecb cu\u1ed1n vào c\u1ea3m xúc gi\u1eadn d\u1eef, t\u1ef1 ti, b\u1ed1i r\u1ed1i. <\/p>\n

Thách th\u1ee9c l\u1edbn nh\u1ea5t trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng là tin vào b\u1ea3n thân b\u1ea1n. Hãy là chính mình, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn con ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1eadt c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n.<\/p>\n

Không \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi khác<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0110\u1eebng \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi khác v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng r\u1eafc r\u1ed1i c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. Kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n \u01b0\u1edbc m\u01a1 t\u1ef7 l\u1ec7 thu\u1eadn v\u1edbi kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng t\u1ef1 ch\u1ecbu trách nhi\u1ec7m cho cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. Khi trách ng\u01b0\u1eddi khác, \u0111\u1ed3ng ngh\u0129a vi\u1ec7c b\u1ea1n ch\u1ed1i b\u1ecf trách nhi\u1ec7m. \u0110\u1eebng trao cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi khác quy\u1ec1n ki\u1ec3m soát ph\u1ea7n cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng \u0111ó c\u1ee7a mình. <\/p>\n

Hãy b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u thôi vi\u1ec7n c\u1edb hay bào ch\u1eefa cho hành vi c\u1ee7a chính mình. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea1m sai l\u1ea7m, hãy nói câu xin l\u1ed7i và b\u1eaft tay ngay vào vi\u1ec7c s\u1eeda sai.<\/p>\n

“Ch\u1eb3ng ai có th\u1ec3 làm cho b\u1ea1n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y th\u1ea5p hèn h\u01a1n n\u1ebfu không có s\u1ef1 cho phép c\u1ee7a <\/em>b\u1ea1n”- (Eleanor Roosevelt)<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Ch\u1ecbu trách nhi\u1ec7m cá nhân<\/strong><\/p>\n

T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 các khó kh\u0103n \u0111\u1ec1u có lý do \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i thích. Có th\u1ec3 t\u1ea1i th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m x\u1ea3y ra b\u1ea1n không nhìn th\u1ea5y hay th\u1ea5u hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. Li\u1ec1u thu\u1ed1c t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft m\u1ecdi c\u1ea3m xúc tiêu c\u1ef1c là ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn hoàn toàn trách nhi\u1ec7m cá nhân. N\u1ebfu b\u1ea1n t\u1ef1 hoá gi\u1ea3i c\u1ea3m xúc trên và ki\u1ec3m soát cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi mình b\u1eb1ng ý th\u1ee9c ” T\u1ed8I T\u1ef0 CH\u1ecaU TRÁCH NHI\u1ec6M!” m\u1ed7i khi gi\u1eadn d\u1eef, hay th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng. B\u1ea1n càng nh\u1eadn trách nhi\u1ec7m \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n thân bao nhiêu, kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng t\u1ef1 làm ch\u1ee7 chính mình, s\u1ef1 m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd, t\u1ef1 tin c\u0169ng t\u0103ng lên t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u1ee9ng.<\/p>\n

Làm ch\u1ee7 c\u1ea3m xúc<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0110\u1ec3 duy trì c\u1ea3m xúc tích c\u1ef1c, hãy lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf ch\u1ec9 trích, phàn nàn hay lên án ng\u01b0\u1eddi khác v\u1ec1 b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 vi\u1ec7c gì. Khi làm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u này, b\u1ea1n \u0111ã kích thích c\u1ea3m xúc tích c\u1ef1c trong mình tr\u1ed7i d\u1eady. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, gi\u1eef thái \u0111\u1ed9 khó ch\u1ecbu \u0111ã \u0111\u1ec3 m\u1eb7c cho c\u1ea3m xúc tiêu c\u1ef1c chi ph\u1ed1i b\u1ea3n thân và cùng lúc cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi khác ki\u1ec3m soát suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. \u0110ây không ph\u1ea3i là \u0111i\u1ec1u khôn quan. Hãy nh\u1edb- chính b\u1ea1n là ki\u1ebfn trúc s\u1ef1 t\u1ea1o ra s\u1ed1 ph\u1eadn c\u1ee7a chính mình.<\/p>\n

“C\u1ea3m xúc tích c\u1ef1 mang l\u1ea1i s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh, c\u1ea3m xúc tiêu c\u1ef1c t\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111o\u1ea1t s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh” (Trích sách Seat of the Soul – Chi\u1ebfc gh\u1ebf tâm h\u1ed3n)<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

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Salem Ohgna<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Tham kh\u1ea3o sách Chinh ph\u1ee5c m\u1ee5c tiêu- Brian Tracy<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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